Overseas Family Moments & a wedding

The quietness of the early morning flows through the halls of the shiny glass-and-steeled structure of the Terminal Two.
A couple of hours later, I flick through the many stores of the main hall at Schiphol Airport and start my day with a cheeseburger and an apple pie at the popular McDonald’s.

From my window seat, I see how the cold winter in Europe clashes against the vastness of the North Atlantic and, following the Portuguese coast down the Canaries and verging West, we finally make landfall over the muddy coast of Suriname. Above the Amazon, the flight turns bumpy before finally meeting the Humboldt current and circle around the dry Peruvian coast for a few minutes.


It always amazes me how small the world can be through the window of a Boeing triple seven. To think that nearly twenty hours ago I was grabbing a shower in central Dublin, that I had breakfast in Amsterdam and dinner in Lima, and now, at almost midnight, we are on final approach to Viru Viru.

It comes as no surprise when I land that heart suddenly races, a feeling I am becoming now familiar with. Recurrent, perhaps. Easygoing, never.

Upon landing, I am welcomed by my mother and brother at the arrivals hall. With not much time left before the big day, I catch some sleep before the morning grows busy with preparations, fittings and anxiety.
Weddings always mean last-minute arrangements. Mean stress, mean sweat, mean worries that seem to finally disappear when the couple-to-be stop at the end of the aisle and look at each other’s eyes. 

‘Long gone are the times when I missed the opportunity of sharing these family moments. Despite the jet lag of a twenty-seven hour trip, I feel lucky to be here today. Lucky to see my brother exchanging rings with her wife-to-be, tightly squeezing my mother’s hand. We might be oceans and continents away, but our hearts will always be linked to those we love and grew up with. My brother, who I used to tag along with everywhere as a kid and use to fights over the most silly things with, now stands there proudly as a newlywed and most importantly, as grown up man.’


A celebration follows with copious amounts of wine, fine dining -steak for me- , wedding cake and an slur of a speech after drinking my body weight in Cabernet Sauvignon. Thunder is heard in the distance as a rule in the summer. A powerful thunderstorm pours over the city and I am again, home.

The narrow and windy road climbing up the foot of the Andes takes me again to Samaipata. Takes me back to the hideaway of past barbecues, of messy carnavals and of breakfast of avocado on homemade bread with a view. My stepdad prepares lunch as a treat to the recently arrived visitor and a stray dog looks at me with deep brown eyes as I doze on the threaded hammock.

It is like if for a couple of days, I want to the time to freeze. I want to stay here remembering what we had and plan for the future.

The rest of my time in the city is, as usual, of catching up. Afternoon visits to the swimming pool with the same anxiety as when I was younger, the anxiety of celebrating achievements over the years, of celebrating progress, of winning.
I spend an entire day with my niece and my nephew and relish on their childish cackle knowing that soon they will be teenagers and horse playing in the pool while having melted ice cream will be nothing but a memory.
If I have learned something during my visits overseas by now, it is perhaps the ability to see through people. To see who celebrated your achievements in the distance and cared about the suffering necessary to do so. These are the people I solely meet now. These are the people that will forever be my friends, my family.
I decide not to sleep on my last evening in the city and instead, I meet family members for a night time barbecue.
At the International Airport, only two flights are called at two in the morning. In between the scattered and sleepy passengers, my stepdad, mother and I hug, though once again, no tears are shed.

Once airside, I feel puzzled by the lack of emotion and open my laptop to reply to a stream of emails.
I soon realise that the sadness of the departure is a constant, not only at the Departures Hall but every single day. I realise that crying only happens when facing the unknown. Absence meeting fear. A fear that now is not present anymore, for I return to Ireland and I am returning home.

Two of my best friends text me when we are on pushback and wave at the airplane from the observation deck. I smile and leave in peace as we climb up a heavy sky towards Lima. From Lima, the airplane follows the green immensity of the Amazon and descend over the shallow waters of Lake Maracaibo.
Outside, everything seems to move very fast for some strange reason. We enter thick white clouds and perform awkward turns on full flaps. A row of buildings appear like skeletons through the fog and the sea is seen crashing against the platform where a wide runway awaits.
Confusing, the local time is announced as four and a half hours behind Greenwich Mean Time. We take our position at the apron and disembark upon a modern yet empty hall. Venezuela, I see?

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